my nose job: an honest conversation about cosmetic surgery
yes, i have had cosmetic surgery. and I’m not ashamed of admitting it. In fact, i’m actually proud of it.
in an age where selfies dominate our social media feeds, the idea that our appearances matter has become oddly important. but with that, comes a necessary level of confidence. Looking at myself now, I can definitely say i’m confident in my own skin. But 15-year-old liesel certainly could not say the same. Now let me back up.
when i was growing up, my family and friends started to take notice of my nose — something that i never really thought about until it was pointed out. it was long and skinny but also bumpy. i would get some rather unpleasant nicknames that i just ended up going along with. but it started to take a toll on my self-confidence. i was envious of others’ perky little noses and wished that i had that. i would look in the mirror and not like what i saw, constantly wishing i could change it. pictures of myself were very carefully selected. pictures of my profile? forget about it. And my edits were always trying to cover some part of my nose to soften up my face. but at the end of the day, it never worked.
my junior year of high school in 2014 (I was 16), my parents gave me the option of getting a nose job.
“cosmetic surgery? really? what would people think??” I thought to myself. Yet deep down, i knew it would make me feel so much better about myself. so i decided to do it— but under the wraps. i went to mexico in the summer of 2014 and got my surgery done. I was able to recover completely throughout the next month and a half without my peers seeing my bruises and bandages. The secrecy was bliss, and it was like it never happened. Like as if i was Born That way.
in the months and even years proceeding it, i was nervous about telling people i got cosmetic surgery because i Knew that they’d think i was “that girl” or i was “fake.” so if i was asked, i would lie in an effort to soften the blow and say it was 50% cosmetic BUT ALSO 50% my breathing issues (yes that was a problem, but i didn’t know that my nose job would fix it).
i’ve come to the realization that feeling embarrassed about Getting surgery Is a stigma in our society telling us that an “unconventional” way to achieve beauty isn’t okay. But honestly, i shouldn’t be ashamed about my nose job because in the end, it made me leaps and bounds more confident about myself. and isn’t that what’s important? so yes, it was 100% for cosmetic reasons.
nowadays, i see so many posts shaming those that have had cosmetic surgery (i loathe the term “plastic” surgery) because they’re not “natural” and they’ve paid to look like that. SO WHAT? if someone has paid to fix an insecurity of theirs in order to feel and look more beautiful for themselves and others, then that’s amazing. equate it to having braces. we’ve probably all had crooked teeth at some point that were not the most cosmetically appealing. i know i did, so i got braces. and my smile afterwards was something i was happy to show off and feel confident about. so why do we have to be so ashamed or shame others for having cosmetic surgery when it’s essentially the same thing?
It’s time we de-stigmatize the topic of plastic surgery. Rather, let’s talk about it as a choice that individuals make for their own gratification. Their new appearance is their bare face and should be recognized as natural and beautiful.
Moreover, it’s also time for us to openly talk about surgeries if they’ve been done. Part of the problem, that I admit to being a part of, is not having an honest conversation about our surgeries or why we had them done. So many influencers and celebrities avidly deny having anything done out of fear that it may tarnish their reputation or that they wouldn’t be perceived as “naturally pretty” anymore. It’s a vicious cycle that the world of beauty has trapped itself in and we need to break it.
This is my personal step in breaking that cycle and being completely honest about what I have had done, because I was confident and fortunate enough to go through with it.
i shouldn’t have to hide the fact that i wanted to change something about my appearance because I’m worried of what people will think, and neither should others. if you’ve had something done, then show it off. you earned it (We all know that recovery wasn’t fun or pretty). and if you are considering getting something done, then do it. i can’t tell you how much better i felt about myself and how happy i’ve been since.